Everyone wants to be helpful, right? Surely, there can’t
be people out there who don’t understand the need to be
helpful and how it binds society together. Then you find yourself
running for an elevator and someone refuses to hold the door.
Perhaps you're trying to accomplish something at your local bank
or government agency and you are faced with someone who, it seems,
does everything in their power to not be helpful. We see a breakdown
in the sense of helpfulness everyday, which is why you need to
focus on this reputation intensely, despite how commonsense it
might first appear.
The fact is, without the helpful actions of those around us – our
friends, family and co-workers – it would be nearly impossible
to get anything accomplished. Others can easily obstruct us in
our endeavors if they wish and we must realize that we can also
obstruct others. Instead, though, we need to be aware of those
opportunities where we can be helpful, seek them out, and use
them to cement our reputation as a helpful person.
Being helpful can take a myriad of forms. In your day-to-day life
this might mean holding the door for someone or helping an older
person load a case of something at the local CostCo Warehouse.
In our work life, helpful actions might be something as simple
as returning your phone calls or as complex as writing a function
for a new program, even though you aren’t on the same project.
Sharing your ideas is also important, as is simply listening to
others, when they need a friendly ear. It is simple actions like
these that establish your reputation for helpfulness and it is
a lack of these actions that can brand you as unhelpful and unfriendly.
I know it can be difficult, with all the stress of work today,
to be as helpful as you might. You have your own work to do and
your own projects to complete. Still, who will you turn to when
you need help? If you constantly deny help to those around you,
you can’t, reasonably, expect them to come running to your
aid when you need them. You have to fill the well of helpfulness
before you can ever draw from it – and you will need to
draw from it. We all need help on occasion, no matter how much
we might consider ourselves the “lone wolf” of the
company.
Of course, like everything in life, there can be a dark side to
helpfulness. There are those around you who will want more than
your help – they will want you do to their work for them.
I have run into many people like this over the years and it is
important you recognize them quickly, so that you don’t
find yourself in a bad situation.
You can typically recognize these “do it for me” folks,
by their subtle (or not so subtle) pressure to offload tasks or
entire projects onto you, instead of just a simple question or
two. In one particular case, during my time as a corporate IS
worker, a request to stop by and “help me format a spreadsheet” turned
into a request to enter pages of data. You have to be quick to
react when faced with a situation like this. In most cases, you
simply have to refuse to do the work for the other person. Being
helpful does not mean being used by others. The sad fact is, though,
that there will be people who attempt to do just that. You can
be helpful without taking on other’s responsibilities. They
may accuse you of being unhelpful, but you should easily see the
difference, even if they can’t.
Building a reputation for helpfulness can do much to enhance your
career and little to harm it, unless you error on the side of
being too helpful and too free with your time. Like the other
reputations I have described, helpfulness is a direct indicator
of your overall desire to do the best work possible. It also
shows a deep understanding that helping others is often the best
way
of enhancing your own work, whenever you need a little helping
hand.
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