This is the second column in a series on Reputations and Your Career launched
on July 27, 2007.
As I continue through this series, you will begin to see how each of the reputations
relates to the others. This is exactly as it should be, as this is what happens
in life. One reputation supports and effects the others. This week, I tackle
honesty and how it relates to your life and career.
By some, honesty is seen as a fluid concept, shades of grey changing slightly
depending on the needs of the moment, the people around and the risks involved.
Little white lies sprinkle our days and yet we think nothing of them. We see
them as merely a way to get along with others without putting us in danger of
losing our job or of physical attack.
In some ways, I agree with this perception, when you are truly confronting
danger, but in most cases, people try to apply the same excuse
to leaps of dishonesty
that go far beyond the little white lie. No , I believe that we all must be
as honest as possible as much as possible, less we slip into the delusion
that honesty is only some vague philosophical concept that really
doesn't apply to
the real world.
It is important to be honest with others, and yourself, for the simple reason
that life demands it. Those who are chronically dishonest are always wary,
always on guard, lest their deceptions be exposed. They pile lie upon lie
to cover
yet another lie until, inevitably, it all comes tumbling down, leaving those
around them to suffer the consequences.
You need to cultivate a Reputation for Honesty because honesty is
required to build trust. Trust is required by all of us who wish
to do great things. We
must trust that those around us are working in their best interest and the
best interest of their work. We need to feel that we can turn our
attention to this
and that, without fear the others will somehow take advantage of our lack
of attention. We need to feel that those around us will not do
us harm. If you
want to gain the trust of others, you must be as honest as possible.
Being honest is more than telling half-truths and white lies to smooth
the waters. Honesty involves telling the truth even when it isn't
easy. Only petty people
fear the truth. The people you want to know are not afraid of the truth or the
person who speaks it. It may seem laughable, but there are others out there
who respect honesty as much as you and it is those you need to seek out and
emulate. Don't be a "Yes Man". Everyone will be better off for acknowledging
the truth you present it to them. If not, the entire company, team or collaboration
might be in danger of failure. No honesty, means no trust and this dooms any
project before it can even begin.
Being honest with yourself is also terribly important. Too many of
us hide our inadequacies behind false bravado, forcing others to
suffer when our projects
lag and tasks go undone. When we hide our failures, we hurt everyone, sometime
even more than ourselves. I am sure you have been on the receiving end of
a worker who hid their failures until the last minute, leaving
you to explain
the situation to your management with no time to craft a new solution. You
don't like it when others do that to you, so why would you even
think of doing it
to others. Be honest and take responsibility for your own actions, good and
bad.
Developing a reputation for honesty helps you in several ways. First,
you will find that people are more open to you...and your ideas.
They know you will give
an honest opinion and not use the information in ways that might hurt them.
People will also give you the benefit of the doubt when issues do arise. Who
will the boss believe more...the person who is always honest or one that is
known for shading their honesty?
Of course, there is a complimentary danger when you develop a reputation
for honesty. Should you ever abandon that honesty, or use the trust
you have developed
to take advantage of someone, the retribution will be swift and heavy. When
you violate someone's trust, especially after professing your honesty, they
will see it as the ultimate insult. You will find yourself punished more severely
than you may have thought possible. Even more, you’ll know that you probably
deserve it. Don't pretend honesty, if you don't truly believe in its importance
or your fall will be worse than if you had been chronically dishonest all your
life. This doesn't mean you shouldn't start being honest, though, only that
you need to continue it in the future.
Cultivate a Reputation for Honesty and you open many doors that others
find closed to them. Honesty leads to trust and trust leads to
collaboration with
others on equal footing. Deny this honesty, or deny this trust, and you are
crippling your career with every passing day.
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