Facing your demons
December 16, 2005
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One of the hazards of writing a column on careers is that some people might begin to think that you have all the answers and that your career is perfectly on-track. Regular readers of Career Opportunities, or listeners to the podcast, have probably already realized, though, that I , like everyone else have my own career demons to face. Many of the columns I have written over the years have spawned directly from my own personal career struggles. I use my writing to gain a better understanding of my own career and, hopefully, get you thinking about your career, as well.
In past columns, I have written about some recurring demons that we all
must face at various times in our careers. Some of these issues are relatively
small, while others go directly to the heart of why you do the work you
do, such as career choice, respect and making meaning with your career
Career Choice
I am confident that we can all agree that the concept of one career for
life is long gone. Not only will you have multiple jobs, but very likely
multiple careers during your lifetime. This fact can lead to a variety
of career crises along the way. For example, there have been several times
in my 20 year career that I have considered leaving technology work behind.
Sometimes this was due to frustration with the high-tech industry as a
whole or just dissatisfaction with a particular job. I spent many a night
soul searching, although I eventually returned to technology work, usually
in a slightly different form.
You are going to face similar crises. One day, you might find yourself
longing to open a coffee bar, become a writer, or start an art gallery.
Like myself, you might decide to remain in high-tech. You should allow
yourself to think of alternatives, no matter how different they might
seem from your current work. We all change over time and a career that
suits you today might become boring or constricting in the future. Open
your mind and explore the possibilities.
A Little respect
If you talk to nearly any high-tech careerist you will hear a common refrain,
“I just want a little respect.” While it is true that respect
is gained through quality work, it must also be given by those you serve.
There are times when you need to demand the respect you deserve or find
a place that provides it freely. Working in an environment where you are
constantly demeaned or ignored is unhealthy for both you and your career.
Too often, concerns over money can prevent you from acting against feelings
of disrespect and force you to remain in a job or career that is damaging
you day after day. The truth is, respect is more important than money.
It is respect that allows you to move forward, take risks and grow in
your career. It is respect that allows you to make mistakes without fearing
you might be fired. It is respect that allows you to do the best work
possible, which in turn allows you to earn the money you need to prosper.
Withholding of respect is a method of controlling people that is used
in many companies. You need to understand this career demon, see it for
what it is and avoid it as much as possible.
Making your career count
Finally, regardless of the work you do, you do it in an effort to make
meaning in your life. We all want to make a difference in the world. Unfortunately,
we can often forget this in the demanding and stressful environment where
we work. Other “survival” issues, like making enough money,
drive out thoughts of passion and meaning. We feel them only as deep longings,
a hunger unfulfilled. No matter what your work, you need to explore your
passions and constantly seek meaning in your life. Ignoring these basic
needs, like ignoring food and water, will leave your life diminished.
There are many demons lurking along your career path. Take the time to
engage these issues. Don’t let the shallower aspects of day-to-day
life overshadow these important underpinnings of your career. The demons
are out there waiting, but sometimes simply “turning on the light”,
with a little care and thought can help dispel them.
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